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Title: Why We Hate
Post by: incognito on November 14, 2019, 02:48:27 pm
The Discovery Channel is airing a series entitled Why We Hate.
I binge watched the first five or six episodes via FIOS On Demand this week.
I recommend watching it to lovers of The Coffee House.

Be advised that you may cringe if you identify some of your behaviors in this forum with behaviors highlighted in the series.
Enjoy!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jqO9FAHPxw4
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: MikeyN.C. on November 14, 2019, 07:00:11 pm
I'm only 54 yrs. old . growing up , we weren't taught that kind of behavior. So when we seen such, we're like who are these people. We were taught respect . if you like it or not.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: incognito on November 14, 2019, 07:07:16 pm
The entire series is not as violent as the trailer.

Some parts are. Most are not.
There is educational value to watching it, even with some of Spielberg's not so subliminal messaging.

Spoiler alert, they do not spare images of Trump.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: MikeyN.C. on November 14, 2019, 07:24:08 pm
We were tought not to judge, that's not our responsibility.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: incognito on November 14, 2019, 07:54:17 pm
The series is about exploring and understanding human and some non-human behaviors.
Invest 10 or 20 minutes in the first 60 minute episode. You will either get hooked or not.
The first episode starts with two species of primates separated by a river and why their group behavior diverges.
I found it fascinating and informative.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: gww on November 14, 2019, 08:06:15 pm
Tom
This is now on my to watch list.  Thanks for posting.
gww
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: MikeyN.C. on November 14, 2019, 08:31:50 pm
Is that not old school , doc. About apes crossing a bridge ( man made) if so that's old.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: MikeyN.C. on November 14, 2019, 08:41:07 pm
And was understood , that there was a reasons , years later ? But you are talking primates rite?
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: incognito on November 14, 2019, 08:59:38 pm
Is that not old school , doc. About apes crossing a bridge ( man made) if so that's old.
And was understood , that there was a reasons , years later ? But you are talking primates rite?
I'm not quite following you. There is nothing about primates crossing a bridge.
There are things about human behavioral experiments and such. Internet influence, crimes against humanity etc.

Just try it out. Or don't. I am not getting paid to attract viewers.
I was not trying to offend you or anyone with the suggestion. That was not my intention.
Our country seems to be more divided that I can remember. Hate may not be the right word, but let's use it as a placeholder nevertheless.
Understanding our behavior may be a starting point to deescalating the divisive rhetoric.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: incognito on November 14, 2019, 09:05:01 pm
I'm only 54 yrs. old . growing up , we weren't taught that kind of behavior. So when we seen such, we're like who are these people.
And that, my friend, is what the series shares insight to.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: MikeyN.C. on November 14, 2019, 09:33:25 pm
My bad , thought you were talking about monkeys
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: incognito on November 14, 2019, 09:38:14 pm
The first episode does talk about primates. Chimps and another species, not monkeys.
We share something like 99% of the same DNA with them.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: MikeyN.C. on November 14, 2019, 09:45:39 pm
U didn't offend me , I watched video yrs. ago. That's all about integration rite?
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: MikeyN.C. on November 14, 2019, 09:50:03 pm
2 different, like my bee's
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: incognito on November 14, 2019, 09:56:37 pm
It is not about black / white integration. That is hardly mentioned. Maybe that is too sensitive a topic for us.

There is a part about tutsi and hutu conflict.
Yugoslavia conflict.


Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: Acebird on November 15, 2019, 08:50:59 am
The Discovery Channel is airing a series entitled Why We Hate.
I would like to but I don't get that channel.  Hate is an emotion tied to fear.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: kathyp on November 15, 2019, 12:10:34 pm
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Hate is an emotion tied to fear.

To some extent this is true.

Perhaps there should be a distinction between what we feel and how we act?  We might actually hate something, but the behaviors I see recently are more about people not being taught to be civil, debate, and accept that others have and have the right to, different opinions. We might find those opinions abhorrent, but we do not have the right to bash/silence people because of those opinions. 

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Maybe that is too sensitive a topic for us.

Is there such a thing?   :wink:
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: Michael Bush on November 18, 2019, 08:47:54 am
Hate is WAY too much work.  Only young people seem to have the energy for it.  I think sometimes they just want to FEEL something so they latch onto an emotion and they feed it and keep it around.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: kathyp on November 18, 2019, 11:47:49 am
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I think sometimes they just want to FEEL something so they latch onto an emotion and they feed it and keep it around.

Having my granddaughter stay with us has been enlightening. I asked her a number of questions the other day.  Why does your generation seem happy to live at home so long?   why are you guys so wrapped up in this gender stuff.  3.  What is this new boomer bashing thing that's going on....It was a wide-ranging conversation.   :grin:

Her overall answer was that they had nothing to occupy their minds so they invented things to be stressed about.  They do not want for anything.  No one is kicking them out the door to survive on their own.  They are not involved in a war.  In short, they are inventing things to scream about because they have nothing real stressing them. 



Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: Acebird on November 19, 2019, 09:06:09 am

Her overall answer was that they had nothing to occupy their minds so they invented things to be stressed about.  They do not want for anything.  No one is kicking them out the door to survive on their own.  They are not involved in a war.  In short, they are inventing things to scream about because they have nothing real stressing them.

I don't think your grand daughter is a dunce.  IF she said these things she is playing you and as expected you eat it right up.
The only reason kids are living at home is because of the parents guilt.  They know they handed their generation less opportunity then they had themselves and included massive debt.  The truth of the matter is your grand daughter has far greater stress then you could ever imagine.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: Michael Bush on November 19, 2019, 09:16:35 am
I don't see any shortage of opportunity.  Every store I go in has a "Help Wanted" sign.  I can't find anyone to do any actual work.  I've been trying for three years to get someone to show up and cut down some trees that are going to fall and I can barely get anyone to come look at them and then they never give me a bid.  I can't get an electrician or plumber to show up.  I can't get people to fix my car unless it's something simple that I could do myself anyway.  I haven't been able to get a small engine repaired in three decades.  Any high school kid could start a business fixing small engines for an investment of $100 in hand tools.  Part of it is they are not willing to sacrifice.  I moved out on my own when I was 18 and I was dirt poor for a long time before I worked my way up in the world, but with a lot of work it happens.  I don't think young people are willing to be poor.  And poor people in our society don't even know HOW to be poor.  They eat out too much.  They buy precooked food.  Prepackaged food.  When I was poor we cooked EVERYTHING from scratch.  No mixes.  We bought flour and sugar and oil.  We baked all our bread.  Fifty pound bags of pintos and white beans and rolled oats.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: kathyp on November 19, 2019, 11:50:39 am
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I don't think your grand daughter is a dunce.  IF she said these things she is playing you and as expected you eat it right up.

I don't think she's dunce either.  She's quite bright.  You seem to imply that I am making up a conversation?

We have some very open conversations and I appreciate the fact that she feels she can be open with me.  This particular conversation came after she told me she needed a weekend in bed because she was tired and stressed.

I do not doubt that she FEELS stressed.  I am pointing out that even she acknowledges that much of the stress of her generation is manufactured as there are few external stresses on them.  They do not need to worry about where their next meal is coming from, where they will sleep, how they will pay bills, etc. 

Debt is a choice and there are plenty of opportunities.  They are not to be found by spending a weekend in bed.

What we did do wrong is make it so easy for them.  If they had to do as we had to do when we were that age, they would be in less debt and spend less time in bed.  We also convinced them that college is the path to success and if they fail in getting that degree they have automatically failed in life.
I am trying to talk her out of going back to school next year because she is not doing well in the few classes she is taking, none of them really furthering her academic stats.   Choir and swimming are not going to lead to a job.



Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: Acebird on November 19, 2019, 05:56:30 pm
They do not need to worry about where their next meal is coming from, where they will sleep, how they will pay bills, etc. 

Debt is a choice and there are plenty of opportunities.

It sounds to me she has made a choice to not go in debt.  She must be taking the opportunity to live with her parents rather than worry about where her next meal is coming from, where she will sleep, and how she will pay bills, etc.  I guess she is smart, maybe.  What she is giving up is independence and becoming more dependent.  That will not go away as she gets older.  She can thank her parents for not letting go...  The problem in not education.  No one has ever been harmed from learning something.
OKay now the tough part.  Your grand daughter, which means at least one of her parents is your offspring.  What did you do wrong?
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: kathyp on November 19, 2019, 07:24:17 pm
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It sounds to me she has made a choice to not go in debt.  She must be taking the opportunity to live with her parents rather than worry about where her next meal is coming from, where she will sleep, and how she will pay bills, etc.  I guess she is smart, maybe.  What she is giving up is independence and becoming more dependent.  That will not go away as she gets older.  She can thank her parents for not letting go...  The problem in not education.  No one has ever been harmed from learning something.
OKay now the tough part.  Your grand daughter, which means at least one of her parents is your offspring.  What did you do wrong?

Education itself is not a problem.  Believing that if you don't get a degree you are a failure, is. 

The story is a long one and not one I choose to share here, but it has to do with a divorce, lots of sex and lots of children, and a protracted custody fight that was won too late to completely save my sons two kids.  I do have hope that she will overcome the early example set by her 1st custodial parent and grandparent.  So far, no pregnancy!   
At the moment, she is living with me.  She wanted to try college again and we are conveniently located.  As this seems not to be working for her, I am suggesting that she investigate some other career and get out on her own.  Considering what she has had to overcome I have cut her some slack, but my patience is not unlimited.

My failure?  It was not to recognize early enough that a 14 year old girl could be such a bleep and that her mother would encourage her behavior, as did her church.  I would have stepped in before it was too late.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: sawdstmakr on November 20, 2019, 07:53:30 am
Kathyp,
You are right. The biggest problem with this generation is that we tried to make their life too easy.
Give them lots of money so they can enjoy their childhood and not have to work until they are an adult. Problem is they never became adults because of this.
I was making my own money when I was 12. If I needed spending money for anything other than basics; food, clothing, school supplies and books, I had to make it. If I wanted to use my dads mower to make money to cut grass, I had to cut our grass first. Actually I had to keep the grass cut. That was one of my jobs.
When children start working at an early age, they learn the value of good work habits.
This generation missed this and and now a want everything given to them.
That is why the Democratic Nanny socialist society is so appeasing to them.
Jim Altmiller
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: incognito on November 20, 2019, 10:24:56 am
My children had part time jobs growing up.
There are many lessons learned by having a job and managing your own money.

Giving your children almost everything they ask for does not make sense to me.

There may be other ways of accomplishing the same goal, but working as a teenager benefited me.

Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: incognito on November 20, 2019, 10:26:19 am
So....back on topic.


Has anyone watched any of the episodes yet?
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: kathyp on November 20, 2019, 11:09:53 am
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So....back on topic.

Didn't know we got OT   :grin:  I have not, but it is now on my list.  Thank you for the rec.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: Acebird on November 21, 2019, 08:57:37 am
The biggest problem with this generation is that we tried to make their life too easy.
Yes, I have heard that.  I see no difference whether the family is republican or democrat.  Actually it has more to do with financially having more to give.  My generation has more to give then my parents or my offspring.  What came into play is "keeping up with the Jones's".  My parents could not have survived if they played that game.  The act of giving your kids more then they need has nothing to do with socialism otherwise Trump would be a full blown socialist.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: sawdstmakr on November 21, 2019, 09:03:29 am
The biggest problem with this generation is that we tried to make their life too easy.
Yes, I have heard that.  I see no difference whether the family is republican or democrat.  Actually it has more to do with financially having more to give.  My generation has more to give then my parents or my offspring.  What came into play is "keeping up with the Jones's".  My parents could not have survived if they played that game.  The act of giving your kids more then they need has nothing to do with socialism otherwise Trump would be a full blown socialist.
Ace.
I totally agree.
Jim Altmiller
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: kathyp on November 21, 2019, 01:35:49 pm
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The act of giving your kids more then they need has nothing to do with socialism otherwise Trump would be a full blown socialist.

Did someone say that it did?  It is not a partisan issue.  It is the mistake of a generation.
Title: Re: Why We Hate
Post by: cidersabuzzin on November 27, 2019, 06:28:35 pm
I don't see any shortage of opportunity.  Every store I go in has a "Help Wanted" sign.  I can't find anyone to do any actual work.  I've been trying for three years to get someone to show up and cut down some trees that are going to fall and I can barely get anyone to come look at them and then they never give me a bid.  I can't get an electrician or plumber to show up.  I can't get people to fix my car unless it's something simple that I could do myself anyway.  I haven't been able to get a small engine repaired in three decades.  Any high school kid could start a business fixing small engines for an investment of $100 in hand tools.  Part of it is they are not willing to sacrifice.  I moved out on my own when I was 18 and I was dirt poor for a long time before I worked my way up in the world, but with a lot of work it happens.  I don't think young people are willing to be poor.  And poor people in our society don't even know HOW to be poor.  They eat out too much.  They buy precooked food.  Prepackaged food.  When I was poor we cooked EVERYTHING from scratch.  No mixes.  We bought flour and sugar and oil.  We baked all our bread.  Fifty pound bags of pintos and white beans and rolled oats.
Michael
Are these people trying to tell you something? Is it the way your 'wanting' something done.  They may have too much work on or the request was abhorrent to them. Juat give a smile when you ask :grin: