The way I see it, if one secretly bets the rent money on the ponies, drops by the beer store twice a day, spends 'quality' time with a woman that's not his wife or snorts a line of cocaine now and then, he needs to re-evaluate his value system and, quite probably, get professional help.
If a woman needs to object to her mate's perfectly legal, moral and productive past times, she needs to re-evaluate her value system and, quite probably, get professional help. I recognize that many women, and men for that matter, need to control their mate's every move - that's illness not virtue.